In the past, when women were dependent on men to support them, beauty was everything to a woman. A beautiful woman would have more suitors. She would be able to marry up. To marry a rich man who could take care of all her financial needs and that of her children. Long before commercial cosmetics existed, mothers would instruct their daughters on traditional beauty remedies. simple beauty remedies like using mayonnaise as a moisturizer, or egg white as a firming mask were often used by women in the days before commercial cosmetics.

Then along came women entrepreneurs like Estee Lauder and other women from around the world. They converted traditional beauty recipes which worked for themselves into beauty creams that they sold to other women. Every woman has a right to look her most beautiful and these women were selling others their beauty secrets.

Makeup was used to paint women's faces. In Egypt, the nobles, royalty and the well off would paint their eyes with khol, with crushed beetles and exotic ingredients. In Europe, women would paint their faces with makeup containing toxic mercury for the sake of beauty. In Japan, the geishas would whiten their faces with creams that contain nightingale droppings.

You would think by now, we modern women would have learnt our lesson.

Now, we just inject poison into our faces to paralyze our facial muscles in order to prevent expression lines from deepening as we grow older. Think of those botox injections done every 3 months to erase those wrinkles. Think of the acids we smear on our faces to smoothen them. The dermabrasion procedures done at the dermatologist in order to smoothen our skin.

Women all over the world have always been willing to suffer for the sake of beauty.

Long ago, in China, women in wealthy families would bind their feet. The Chinese back then view tiny feet as beautiful, so little girls have their feet bound, to prevent them from growing big and ugly. Now that long legs are considered beautiful, some women go through a very painful medical procedure that breaks their legs, and stretches their legs by a few millimeters a day through a painful device until they attain the height they want. With their newfound height, these girls can look forward to a wealthy, glamorous future as an international model.

In Europe, centuries ago, wasp waists and curvy bodies were considered beautiful, so corsets were worn to make the waist look much smaller. These were tied so tightly that women faint easily. All for the sake of beauty. Now, corsets are in again. These days, women and men subject themselves to surgery to attain the beauty they desire. Liposuction to remove the excess fat to contour the body. Breast augmentation for bigger breasts that are considered beautiful. Nose jobs, face lifts, the works.

Thankfully, there is also a return to natural beauty remedies.

This time, commercial cosmetics use natural ingredients that women have used for centuries in the home beauty preparations. These are effective and great for the skin.

What we women really should do is to focus on inner beauty, and to keep ourselves healthy. Health is beauty.

8 to 10 hours of sleep every night, fresh food, fresh air, daily exercise, drinking plenty of water every day, soap and water, or cleanser and toner, moisturizer where necessary and sun protection all day long. All that keeps your body healthy and your skin and hair, beautiful. Oh, and learn to age gracefully. After all, aging is a natural process in life.
Source: Janice-Wee

(YOU DO!)

Now that you are moving forward more and more people will see the results and they will become more and more obvious as time goes on, as you start becoming the perfect person you want, your new life is just around the corner keep your eyes on the prize you can do it, you will make it with the will to win! You have to read motivational books and listen to motivational tapes.

The best tape series is Zig Ziglers How to Stay Motivated Series. a series with six tapes in each, this Along with the books, this will change the picture and move you to a different level if you continue this on a daily bias you will be surprised at how fast you can move in the right direction and see results for yourself.

You must also remove the negative people from your life and choose to hang around the positive people and associate with people whom more are in tune with the new you. You will be surprised at how as you are changing that you will start to look for these types of people and they will start to show up, slowly you faze out all the negative people and the ones that don't quite fit the style of person you are becoming.

If you keep on doing what you've Been Doing, Then Your Going to Keep Getting What You Been Getting! Zig Ziglar.

Well, if you don't like what you been getting you must change the picture, The choice is up to you, only you hold the keys to your future, you can take the ball and run with it, or you can punt the ball and keep things the way they are.

The choice is up to you, the perfect you are inside you, only you can unlock the beast that wants to come out and play. When someone is negative or something is negative, ask yourself does this fit into the me that I want to be? If not, get away from the cancer, as it Will surly bring you down too. Stay positive, stay upbeat, the results are already in, if you want to change you can!

IF YOU PUT THE GOOD STUFF IN YOU ARE GOING TO GET THE GOOD STUFF OUT! IF YOU PUT THE BAD STUFF IN YOU ARE GOING TO GET THE BAD STUFF OUT!

Well if you know something is bad then move and move swiftly as far away from it as you can, not only are they going down, so too will you soon follow in there footsteps. If this is what you are after then I say follow them into that cold dark place we call negativity, the place that can never lead to something good, a very lonely place indeed.

Because all the people who are succeeding in there life will surly be going in the opposite direction. The choice is yours do with your life what you will, after all it's your life, but if you want to go in the direction that the winners go, make the choice to stay positive and choose things that are positive and people that are positive and you are well on your way to becoming the "Perfect You."

That I know you can become, this at times is easy and at other times will require dedication and hard work. Don't wonder why others have this or that, find out how they got there and follow their lead, you may need to alter what I did or someone else did a bit, but you have the blue prints for success at your finger tips, don't be afraid to use them.

You can become the person you want! You can do it! See it in yourself first and then others will start to see it also, the positive you that you now have become and then you can show others how to build the perfect person that you know they are.

IF YOU HELP ENOUGH OTHER PEOPLE GET WHAT THEY WANT, YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT !!

But anger, of course, has several levels. You can't equate an enemy who wants to literally stab your heart in the same level of hatred as a person who just broke your heart. Social norms, laws and common sense dictate that we control our anger depending on the intensity of the threats we face. We can't deliver karate blows against every person who simply irritates or annoys us.

But, yes, you can still express your strong emotions to someone who simply pisses you off. Be careful though not to hurt his feelings too much; for instance, don't call him nasty names. Tell the person directly in his face that his behavior is annoying you and making you feel uneasy.

Suppressing your anger - Another way to control your raging emotion is to suppress it, convert it or redirect it. If you feel that it's not yet the time to express your anger, you may decide to freeze it, stop thinking about it, or think of something positive to do instead.

But the danger here is that your bottled up feelings can explode inside you, which may cause health problems like hypertension, depression or high blood pressure. Unreleased anger can also lead to other problems like striking back at your perceived enemy indirectly, or criticizing people even without justification.

Calm yourself - Among the three ways to control anger, calming yourself is without doubt the best option. When you do this, you not only control your outward behavior but also your feelings, thus preventing both physical confrontations -- which will inevitably bring you harm -- and internal conflict, which could harm your health.

Although this is the best option, this is also the hardest to do. But mental discipline and the correct frame of mind, plus moral support from caring friends or relatives, will surely enable you to control your anger in the most effective manner. Source: Michael-Lee

This is where the challenge lies. Deeply ingrained behaviors are difficult to change, for people always seek the easy route or the comfort of the status quo. It may not be easy, but it can be done. Consider this perspective: Always remember that if you do not do the right behavior, you fuel the habit of doing the wrong behavior.

For example, you hardly have any exercise. The mere thought of going to the gym or taking a walk makes you wince. You snuggle under bedcovers, thinking you can do it tomorrow. You spend the day watching television munching unhealthy food. At the end of the day, you feel awful for having no self-discipline. You promise to exercise the following day. When the next day comes, the cycle stays the same.

Think of it this way: when you miss a workout, it's not like you just stay at the same level you're at. You actually take a few steps back. Every time you miss a workout, you have done something to strengthen the habit of not working out. The more workouts you miss, the stronger the negative behavior grows.

How do you change behavior patterns painlessly? You can start small by allotting fifteen to twenty minutes of your television time for exercise time. Try this for about two weeks. When your body is used to this new schedule, you may gradually increase your exercise time to half an hour. This automatically reduces your television time by a total of thirty minutes.

Say you spend most of the time sitting by the window thinking of fears, anxiety, apprehension, and all sorts of mumbo jumbo thoughts entering your mind. Replace this unproductive habit with a productive behavior. You might want to pick up a book and read it, or take your pet dog for a walk (this gives you the exercise you need at the same time). You can also spend idle time in socializing occasionally, doing occasional volunteer work, or just have plain fun with family or friends.

So you see, there are ways of changing behavior patterns. The technique is to do it gradually. Start small with just a few minutes a day for a week or two, increase the time for the weeks, and so on. You will see an amazing transformation in terms of mental, emotional, and spiritual fulfillment after a couple of weeks. The brooding feeling will be lifted and you will feel energized with the new pattern of behavior.

Again, it should be emphasized that for the new behavior patterns to take root, any improvement must be done gradually, giving it time to sink into your life for you to enjoy its long-term benefits.

Attempting to hasten behavioral change by doing it in large doses or in one gulp might not produce promising effects for improvement. Instead, it might lead to pain and frustration that might not give the same motivation to continue with the change process.

A gradual improvement with long-term effects is definitely worth your time and wait.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder doesn't affect just adults. The disorder often begins during adolescence or early childhood. About one-third to one-half of adult cases begin in childhood. Although there's no cure for obsessive-compulsive disorder, treatments can help you get the disorder under control.

Signs and Symptoms

Signs and symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder include:

Obsessions

These are recurrent, persistent, unwanted ideas, thoughts or impulses that you experience involuntarily and that appear to be senseless. They commonly intrude when you're trying to think of or do other things. Common obsessions include:

* Fear of dirt or contamination.
* Concern with order, symmetry and exactness.
* Constantly thinking about certain sounds, images, words or numbers.
* Fear of harming a family member or friend.
* Fear of thinking evil or sinful thoughts.

Compulsions

These are repetitive behaviors that you're driven to perform regularly to combat your obsessions, even though to you -- and to others -- they may seem irrational. You may even make up "rules" to follow that help control the anxiety you feel when having obsessive thoughts. Typical compulsions include:

* Excessive hand washing.
* Repeatedly checking that doors are locked and appliances are turned off.
* Arranging items in a precise order.
* Repeatedly counting to the same number.
* Touching certain objects a precise number of times.

When you perform these rituals, you may feel some relief from anxiety, but not for long. Soon your discomfort returns, and you feel compelled to repeat your behaviors.

If you have an obsessive-compulsive disorder, you probably know that your repetitive thoughts and behaviors are irrational and senseless, but you can't free yourself from them. You may be able to control unwanted behaviors for a while, but your resistance may weaken after months or years of struggle. Eventually, your rituals may take up more and more of your day, making it virtually impossible to lead a normal life.

There's a difference between being a perfectionist and having obsessive-compulsive disorder. Perhaps you get all of your work done a week ahead of schedule, you compete at sports like a pro, and you keep the floors in your house so clean you could eat off them. That doesn't mean you have obsessive-compulsive disorder. Instead, you may belong to a large group of people who are sometimes called compulsive. That just means you hold yourself to a very high standard of performance in all that you do. This behavior contributes to building your self-esteem and success. These are not the behaviors seen in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder. Behaviors associated with obsessive-compulsive disorder interfere with everyday functioning.

Causes

Doctors don't know the exact cause of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Some researchers theorize that its cause is biological, while others feel the disorder stems from learned behavior. Still others believe the cause of the disorder may be both biological and environmental factors. An insufficient level of serotonin, one of your brain's chemical messengers, may contribute to obsessive-compulsive disorder. Imaging studies that use positron emission tomography (PET) scans to compare the brains of people who have obsessive-compulsive disorder with the brains of those who don't, show differences in brain-activity patterns. In addition, people with obsessive-compulsive disorder who take medications that enhance the action of serotonin often show great improvement.

Risk Factors

Your risk of developing an obsessive-compulsive disorder is slightly higher if your parents or other family members have obsessive-compulsive disorder. However, researchers haven't identified any genes responsible for obsessive-compulsive disorder. You may also have a biological predisposition to react strongly to stress. This reaction may, for some reason, trigger the intrusive thoughts, rituals and emotional distress characteristic of obsessive-compulsive disorder.

When to Seek Medical Advice

Shame and embarrassment may keep you from seeking treatment for obsessive-compulsive disorder. But even if your rituals are deeply ingrained, treatments can help. If you suspect you have obsessive-compulsive disorder, see your doctor or a mental health professional.

Source: Arthur-Buchanan

When it comes to men's health advice it used to be that men turned to their fathers. Of course, these days, that is often not going to be very helpful. So much is being written about women's health today that it only makes sense for there to be much information on men's health as well. Men needed a place to turn top for advice and general information about their health and the forums for this are increasing every day.

Increasingly, advice for men is furnished through men's magazines such as Men's Health and Men's Journal. Even Playboy magazine has spent decades dishing out advice for men on everything from love and sex to cars and computers. Their writers and editors are often connoisseurs with expertise in wine, cinema, literature, music, humor, and other tools of the trade. Men's health issues are addressed in articles just about everywhere including online forums as well.

As it turns out, the Internet is the leading source of advice for men, because it's often free. Free advice, as you might suspect, does not always equate with good advice, however, so men must in fact be discriminating in where they turn. If there's one problem that soliciting advice over the Internet poses, it's the difficulty of verifying the information sources. Consequently, the value of established men's portals, many of which have attracted writers and editors from leading magazines, has skyrocketed in the past few years.

Sometimes, it's women who indeed have the best advice for men, as it is they whom the men have spent so much time, energy, and money pursuing. Ironically, it's women and women's magazines that often have the best advice to give on stress relief, of all things, prostate advice and even penile dysfunctions. When it comes to men's health issues, more and more advice is posted everyday. Perhaps the best forum for this online is for men visit webmd. com.

So the brain thinks in images. Our memories are collections of images. The interesting thing is, we actually have the power to control or change those images. By changing our images we can change/control our states.

Think of a time when you felt some stress. Make this memory as vivid as you can. If you can imagine a time when you were stressed and feel those feelings now. You are 'hallucinating' as that situation exists in the past, not now. You have to recreate or 'hallucinate' the conditions to feel stressed.

Hallucination is normal. We do it all the time. When you think of that situation with an ex that happened 5 years ago and get angry or recall or memory that makes you all mushy. You are vividly recreating an event that has ceased to exist. In other words you are hallucinating in a controlled manner.

Ask yourself, "How can I use this knowledge about hallucination for stress management?"

Think of a time when you felt challenged but confident that you will succeed. Pick even a small event and hallucinate in vividly. Feel the feelings you felt then, now.

Here's the fun part. Go back to the time you felt stressed and notice what details your mind is focused on. Particularly what you saw, heard, felt etc. in detail. Do the same for the time you felt good and notice how these hallucinations are different from each other.

Maybe in the stress hallucination you feel pressure around you (with the world closing in) while when feeling confident you don't. Maybe you say negative thoughts to yourself while in stress and when not, you think of nice things.

Pay careful attention to these next words.

If you take the components of the stressful hallucination (size, feelings sounds etc.) and switch it with the more positive one you will feel better automatically.

This has to do with how your brain organizes your thoughts. Happy thoughts are kept in one area and sad thoughts in another. If you use the happy thoughts way of perceiving things, then that's how you will feel.

It can take you up to 5 minutes to get the feel for the process. Once you know how to change your stressful hallucinations to positive ones you can do it anytime anywhere.

The ability to choose our thoughts, to think what we want, is what gives us the power to determine our attitude and perspective when approaching a problem.

If we allow stress, anger and frustration to consume us, it can be like a runaway train gathering steam and threatening to derail. All you got to do is stop fueling the fire and the train will slow down.

Source: http://www.healthguidance.org/authors/435/Abbas-Abedi